In My first career as a social worker, there were very clear parameters regarding client confidentiality. With professional domination, not so much. ProDommes are left to their own devices to decide how we conduct ourselves professionally and in our interactions with clients. There is no governing body to ensure client safety protocols are being followed. I always guarantee discretion. You may wonder though, what does that really mean? I have decided to address some of the most common concerns I hear around whether or not your secret is safe with Me.
I see photos on your social media of your submissives in session. Will you take photos of me?
Any photo I take is taken with consent. Any photo I post is posted with permission. I will never take or post photos without asking first. If you want photos taken of our session to remind you of the fun we had, please feel free to make this request.
Will you be recording our session? Are there video cameras in your studio?
There are no video cameras in My studio. I have alternate security protocols in place to ensure both of our safety. I do not record any part of a session without consent. I am always happy to record custom clips for additional tribute.
Do your neighbours know what you do?
I am very fortunate to have My studio in a building that was erected in the 1930s which is much more sound proof than newer structures. The building is a mix of residential and commercial units which means it is not uncommon for people to be coming and going. The building and unit itself is very discreet. I am very private about what I use the studio for. I have run into a neighbour a handful of times over the past several years I have been there. If I think a session will be extraordinarily loud (because let’s face it, some of you subs are screamers), I will post a “recording in session” sign on the outside of My door just in case.
I want You to let the world know what a filthy slut I am. What is your approach to blackmail?
Blackmail, like any other BDSM service I offer, must be consensual. I know some of you love being manipulated by a powerful Woman and I’m happy to do so. you want Me to show everyone on Craigslist how well you suck a cock or how pathetic you look dressed up like My little sissy slut. Before posting these pics publicly, I will require you to sign a waiver stating that this activity is consensual and I will not be held accountable for any damages that occur to you personally or professionally as a result. After all, blackmail is illegal and I would much rather role play a lawyer than have to hire one.
What will happen if we see each other in public?
I ran into a client at the gym last week. It happens. In situations like this, I use the same protocol that is expected in social work. I never acknowledge a client first and if they acknowledge Me I will respond respectfully. If you see Me in public while I’m with others and say hello, I will not disclose to them how I know you. This holds true at fetish events as well. I would not tell My companions that we had sessioned. If you see Me in public (unless we are at a fetish event), there is really no reason to address Me. It’s nothing personal. It’s important to keep personal and professional boundaries clear.
How will you respond if my girlfriend or wife contacts you?
I have had girlfriends contact Me asking if their boyfriend has sessioned with or contacted Me. My response is “I am not able to comment due to client confidentiality”. I have had wives contact Me and tell Me that I will no longer be seeing their husband and that I destroy marriages (I get it. I really do. Working with couples is a blog currently in progress). I do not respond to those emails. I have wives who know I am sessioning with or who send Me their husbands and want session input or feedback. In situations like that I speak openly with partners as long as My client is aware that we are interacting. My thoughts are that they are both hiring Me to provide a service to them as a couple even if one partner is not physically present during the session. If a wife contacts Me without their partner knowing, even though they made the decision together to hire Me, I would encourage her to be open and forthcoming with her husband about needing to interact with Me so that I can support them as a couple without betraying the confidence of My client. (There’s a lot more to the ethics of being a ProDomme than you realized, right?)
Do I need to give you my real name?
you do not. I will call you anything you wish during our exchanges. I require photo ID for anyone renting My studio. I may ask you for photo ID if I suspect you are under 18 (all in due time young eager slaves!)
What happens if I pop up as a suggested friend on your social media?
This is a really important one I want to share with you. If you contact a ProDomme using the same email address and/or phone number associated with your Facebook account, you will show up as a suggested friend on their personal Facebook profile. This has happened to me many times. This means that I can access your Facebook profile, see pics of your wife and children, know where you live, vacation, went to school, etc. Scary right? Of course, I would never use this information to harm or threaten a client but there are “professionals” out there that will use any information they can find to manipulate you. I realized that this probably meant I was also then coming up as a suggested friend on clients’ Facebook once they have my phone number in their smart phone. I encourage all of you reading this right now to go change your privacy settings as I have done. If My personal Facebook is still showing up as a suggested friend, I would really appreciate you letting Me know.
I gave your name as a reference when booking with another ProDomme. What will you tell her?
I am often contacted by other ProDommes and sex trade workers asking for a reference for clients I have seen. The general information I disclose is a confirmation that I sessioned with you, when, how many times, followed by “no issues or concerns to note”. Unless of course there were concerns such as disrespectful, rude, aggressive, time wasting or manipulative behaviour. Then I would communicate My experience as such and let them make their own decision about whether or not they wanted to work with you. If you wanted Me to work collaboratively with another sex trade worker, such as telling Her/Him what training goals we were working on, making arrangements to send you to Her/Him for punishment/reward, or influencing the session in any other way through correspondence with them, I will require tribute for My time and efforts. Fun idea though, don’t you think?
Have a concern I haven’t addressed here? I would love to hear it. CONTACT ME!